We've all heard it. "You need to open up." "You can't keep it all inside."And there's truth in that. But sometimes you open up and it helps… and sometimes you walk away wishing you hadn't. Same story. Same tears. Totally different result.So, what's the difference?In this episode, I'm sharing the one question I've learned to ask before I open up: Who is this for? When I share my story so someone else knows they're not alone, vulnerability becomes a bridge. When I'm sharing hoping to be rescued, I usually walk away feeling exposed instead of connected.We'll talk about speaking from scars, not open wounds. We'll look at how Jesus had the crowds, the twelve, the three… and the garden, alone with the Father. And we'll talk about the two ditches men tend to fall into: saying nothing, or saying everything to the wrong people.Your story isn't just yours. It's one more way God comforts the hurting.The goal isn't to be an open book. It's to be an honest one… held in the right hands.Find more about me at https://jaycookingham.comI'm on @buymeacoffee. If you like, or even maybe love my podcast, you can buy me a coffee and support me. It's a simple way of showing your support and helping me grow the podcast. Thank you! Here's the link: buymeacoffee.com/jcdude56tMusic: "Song for Christine" by Paul Grimsland https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCit47MsUdx6jf5tYVFV6TzQ